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Unsolicited Evaluation Is the Enemy of Creativity

In schools today—and increasingly out of schools too—children are more or less continuously directed and evaluated by adults. These are precisely the conditions that have been shown, in many research studies, to suppress creativity. It is no wonder that children's creativity has declined in recent decades.

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How to Advise and Help Your Kids Without Driving Them (or Yourself) Crazy

We love our kids. We want the best for them. And so, we offer them advice and help that they didn't ask for and don't want, and they reject it or ignore it. In some instances our impulse to help leads us to become downright pests to our children. ... Here are seven suggestions for really helping kids, in ways that respect their individuality and need for autonomy.

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Trustful Parenting May Require an Alternative to Conventional Schooling

As I write this essay, children and adolescents all over America are frantically completing their assigned summer reading, so they can turn in their book reports, due on the first day of class. Or, they are blowing off the assignments while their parents are frantically trying to get them to do them. If your child fails to turn in those reports, you may be as much to "blame" as your child. The school system expects you to monitor, nudge, maybe even bribe or threaten your child--do whatever you must to get that slacker to do the assignment. .... To be a trustful parent these days, you may need to find some alternative to conventional schooling for your child. Here are two suggestions.

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